Swinging in the Temporal Realm of COVID

Two of the Toronto sex clubs re-opened in recent weeks. Pardon me, Toronto's lifestyle clubs. One of those clubs, Club M4, is a place my regular readers will recognize. In the club's initial location, along Lake Shore Blvd in Toronto's west end, it was the setting for the opening scene of my first novel, "Just Prey." It was also the club where I was honored to enjoy my first book signing event three years ago. The club's new location is just a touch further west, in Mississauga, ON. The other club that has re-opened is Club NYX in Oakville...a little further west, yet. Generally speaking, I support these clubs on what they do and how they do it. I have my preferences mostly due to how inclusive I feel some of the [Read more...]

America, A Once Proud Nation (Four Nights in Hotlanta)

As we met new people, our declaration of being Canadian was usually followed by apologetic faces on their part. I mean, we're the Canucks; we're the ones supposed to be apologizing. The female partner of one couple we met said, "Why are you here? You must hate us." We don't hate the US. As one who studies Canadian - American interactions pointed out, Canadians often make fun of Americans as we get smothered by their presence being we are such a smaller country. One Canadian comedian wrote a piece about, after Orange was first elected, how Canada was at the same bar and trying to convince the US it had too much to drink and now better get home to face its spouse. (I've been unable to find the link and will edit this if I do). Let's be [Read more...]

Finding My People, Part 1 – Polytix Episode 10

  This is episode 10 of Polytix. This week, @LaurasPond and I discuss our experience at a poly speed dating event hosted by Polyamory Toronto, as well as discuss other experiences in dating within a poly mindset. This is part #1 of a 2 part set on finding poly people. Music for the Polytix Podcast is “Sweet Passage” by Frau Holle and subject to Commercial Commons: Attribution-Non Commercial 3.0 Unported (CC BY-NC 3.0)

The Entitlement of Man – Polytix Episode 9

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This is episode 9 of Polytix. This week, @LaurasPond and I explore our experiences with some of the more entitled in the swinging and polyamorous community. It isn't all just great sex and mind-blowing orgasms, unfortunately.   Music for the Polytix Podcast is “Sweet Passage” by Frau Holle and subject to Commercial Commons: Attribution-Non Commercial 3.0 Unported (CC BY-NC 3.0)

The Young and The Jealous – Polytix Episode 8

This is episode 8 of Polytix. This week, @LaurasPond and I give examples of jealousy in our experiences and how we cope with it. Jealousy is a natural response to the unknown seas of polyamory and is never easy to be dealt with. But dealt with, it can be.       Music for the Polytix Podcast is “Sweet Passage” by Frau Holle and subject to Commercial Commons: Attribution-Non Commercial 3.0 Unported (CC BY-NC 3.0)

Innies and Outies – Polytix Episode 7

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This is episode 7 of Polytix. This week, @LaurasPond and I discuss the difficulties of introverts and extroverts navigating the waters of polyamory and ethical non-monogamy. It's not an easy life to begin with when one isn't comfortable talking to others, and multiple relationships turns up the heat. Music for the Polytix Podcast is “Sweet Passage” by Frau Holle and subject to Commercial Commons: Attribution-Non Commercial 3.0 Unported (CC BY-NC 3.0)