This Is Not What It’s Like To Be In An Open Relationship

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Have you seen the articles? The ones claiming this is what it's like to be part of a polyamory union. They're everywhere. A quick Google search pulls articles from Cosmo to Pop Sugar to The Independent to MSN. And those were just the first four. I could pile on if I felt like a glutton for punishment. Each claims to detail how an open or polyamorous relationship works. And they have no fucking clue. If you ask me, I have no fucking clue. I know what it's like for me. Laura and I share that in our Polytix series of podcasts. I know some of what I need and what needs to be avoided for it to work for me. But I can't pretend to know what you need. And that is the entire point of polyamory and ethical non-monogamy; we all [Read more...]

The Young and The Jealous – Polytix Episode 8

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This is episode 8 of Polytix. This week, @LaurasPond and I give examples of jealousy in our experiences and how we cope with it. Jealousy is a natural response to the unknown seas of polyamory and is never easy to be dealt with. But dealt with, it can be.       Music for the Polytix Podcast is “Sweet Passage” by Frau Holle and subject to Commercial Commons: Attribution-Non Commercial 3.0 Unported (CC BY-NC 3.0)

Innies and Outies – Polytix Episode 7

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This is episode 7 of Polytix. This week, @LaurasPond and I discuss the difficulties of introverts and extroverts navigating the waters of polyamory and ethical non-monogamy. It's not an easy life to begin with when one isn't comfortable talking to others, and multiple relationships turns up the heat. Music for the Polytix Podcast is “Sweet Passage” by Frau Holle and subject to Commercial Commons: Attribution-Non Commercial 3.0 Unported (CC BY-NC 3.0)

Thrice Learned – Polytix, Episode 5

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This week's episode includes @LaurasPond and I discussing the top three things we learned since first entering the ethically non-monogamous lifestyle...top three, with a bullet! Music for the Polytix Podcast is “Sweet Passage” by Frau Holle and subject to Commercial Commons: Attribution-Non Commercial 3.0 Unported (CC BY-NC 3.0)

Communicate, Communicate, Communicate…and Then Talk About It – Polytix, Episode 3

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This week in episode three we talk about talking. We talk about being open and talking some more. We talk about talking about the scary stuff that most are too fearful to discuss with a partner, whether primary or other. ...and we didn't even stop for water breaks. Music for the Polytix Podcast is "Sweet Passage" by Frau Holle and subject to Commercial Commons: Attribution-Non Commercial 3.0 Unported (CC BY-NC 3.0)

High Pitch

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Author's note...part two of a new series, Among Gods. Part one is here. This week's Wicked Wednesday is based on a piece of music. When hearing strings, I always think of the bass, so that left me with two options...Tony Levin or Geddy Lee? Normally, there would be no contest except that the music of Rush didn't seem appropriate here. ...press play Paul grinned and pointed at the instrument in the corner. "They call that the Chapman Stick." The stringed instrument was merely the neck of a guitar with a multitude of strings along its dark ironwood body. Calli cocked her head to one side and looked at the instrument. "Can't say I've heard of it." "Of course you haven't. It doesn't show up until the late 20th Century." His [Read more...]